I'm assuming you've been at SCAD for a year because of your posts! (sorry, I was definitely creeping- I love everything you write about!) I just found out today I'm going to be in Dyson next year. Do you like it? And can you tell me a little bit about the ups & downs of SCAD? Thank you :-)
Yes, I am a sophomore at SCAD now. Thank you for creeping! Haha. I no longer live in Dyson being in my second year now, but I did like it. I can honestly say it is the best option of the freshman dorms, in my opinion. I think each dorm has a different personality, so depending on yours, you might like one of the others better. Dyson is the most quiet and allots the most privacy. Also, it’s almost all doubles, whereas Tannex and Turner are usually triples, so you have to compromise and organize a bit less, which is a huge plus. Tannex is about 1/4 (or less) doubles, but those rooms are usually much smaller than doubles in Dyson. With Dyson, you’re not stuck in a hallway and don’t have to climbs so many steps or worry about elevators taking forever as Dyson is, for one, like a motel and rooms open to the outdoors, and two, is only two-story buildings. Yes, buildings. Dyson is several clusters of two-story buildings. And, you get a pool. So, yea, I’d recommend it.
I love SCAD. I became a student ambassador for SCAD because of this, so if you have any other questions or concerns, feel free to get in touch again as I can definitely help you out.
- Awesome professors handpicked by SCAD straight from the industry.
- Huge amount of majors and minors.
- Small class sizes (lectures 30 or less, studios 20 or less).
- Lots of extracurricular opportunities, clubs, and events which can all look awesome on resumes. There’s always something going on at SCAD.
- Amazing advisors - academic, financial, career, and counseling services.
- So many resources (like all kinds of tutoring for any class) and buildings to obtain them, so you’re not stuck in one huge building, you’re all over the city.
- We’re famous, so being a SCAD student alone looks great to future employers.
- SCAD is very career oriented, so every step of the way you’re learning not just the material, but how to use it in the industry. You’re building your portfolio constantly, so no class goes to waste.
- Stress. Like most art schools and colleges generally, SCAD can be a lot of pressure. You do have to learn and excel at time management like you would anywhere else, but probably here especially.
- Cost. A lot of people look at SCAD’s tuition and get a little bit of sticker shock. But honestly, scholarships are easily attained if you work to get them, and compared to other art schools, we’re not that bad. Besides, SCAD really is worth it.
I hope this helps! Let me know if you have more questions.
I just found out I am pregnant and I am not ready to have a baby at this point in time. My mother is telling me to not tell the guy who is the father but I feel I should. I will be having an abortion as I am really not ready even though I want to be a mother badly just not now. What do you think about telling the father?
I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this. I can’t imagine how difficult and stressful this must be for you. My thoughts are with you! As far as telling the guy, personally, I think I would. It’s really is about the timing, however. You could wait until after the procedure to tell him. If you’re going to tell him before, be sure to make it clear that you are firm on your decision and it is not changing (it’s your body and ultimately your choice to make). If you are in a relationship with him and wish to continue it, I would tell him before, as dishonesty tends to crush any relationship eventually. If you’re not with him and don’t wish to be, you can definitely wait until after. I hope this helps you and I wish you the best of luck and good health. <3
Well I really can't leave, mostly I'm scared to, so if I can hide the bruises, people won't know and he won't be as mad, and I think things will get better.
See, you shouldn’t be afraid of the person you’re with. You CAN leave. Let people in. Tell your mom and/or best friend what going on and let them help you out of this. His anger and abuse is only going to get worse through time, whether you cover your bruises or not. This is unhealthy, sweetheart. Be healthy, be happy — do the right thing.
I promise everything's fine.
I promise it’s not. There’s nothing fine about abuse.
It's just I know he loves me, and I do love him too. He doesn't mean to hurt me. I can't tell anyone, and I can't leave. I just need to hide it so no one knows and no one asks.
If you didn’t see anything wrong with him hurting you, you wouldn’t feel the need to cover the bruises. Trust your instincts. You know this is wrong. He does mean to hurt you. Otherwise, he wouldn’t keep doing it, or even do it in the first place. Don’t take this the wrong way, but you are still very young. You shouldn’t fear leaving him. You will find someone MUCH better. I promise you. You have all the time in the world. You don’t need to settle for him and his abuse.
Thanks but I don't live with him, I'm 16 and I cannot leave him. It's complicated but he doesn't mean it. I just want to be able to hide the bruises and I'll be okay.
Tell me how it is complicated? I’d like to understand.
thanks so much for the avice , he doesnt have a fb :/ so i guess i'll just see what happend , im hoping for something good ! thanks again xoxo
Me too! No problem.
Hi, I'm in an abusive relationship, and I won't leave, and it's not his fault, but how can I hide the bruises and make him treat me better?
It IS his fault. Abuse is uncalled for NO MATTER WHAT. True love doesn’t make room for violence. You are not going to be able to make him treat you better. If he were any bit inclined to treat you differently, he would be doing so, but he is not. Abusive partners are MUCH more likely to become more abusive than to ever stop being abusive. You deserve better than him, his violence, and the excuses you’re making for him. Why stay in a situation that causes you all kinds of pain? Would you stand in front of a baseball shooter, knowing that it can and will hit you at any time, and not move away? No. He can say he loves you, but if he really, truly did, he wouldn’t abuse you. He is degrading you, humiliating you, bruising you, saddening you, and otherwise harming you in all sorts of ways, and the longer you let him do this to you, the worse it will get. The worse he will hurt you, the worse you’re heart and mind will suffer. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, I BEG OF YOU — GET OUT NOW. As soon as you’re next alone with plenty of time, don’t tell him you’re going, just call a friend of family member you trust who will take you in. Pack up all of your belongings (if you live together, take everything of yours; if you live apart, take enough of your belongings to last you 2 weeks). Block his phone number immediately, and as soon as you can, change your phone number. This may seem drastic, but trust me, you’ll regret it if you don’t. You do NOT want him to be able to find you, talk to you, or see you at all. Stay out of his grasp, or you WILL get hurt. If he tries to contact you in any way, call the police. They will help to keep you safe. Once things are under control and there is NO RISK OF HIM CONTACTING YOU in ANY WAY, go back home, start fresh, and live your live abuse free. I really, really hope you head my words. I hope you’ll write me back and keep me updated. You may be a stranger, but I care for your wellbeing and I won’t stand for you to be hurt. <3 Take care of yourself.
About three months ago i met this great guy , we really hit it off and i can see us being in a serious realtionship soon . It's been about 4 days since i've heard from him which is weird since we CONSTANTLY text and talk on the phone. ive texted and called and no reply :( i dont want to come off as annoying , or even desperate but i dont understand since the last we talked he said he cant wait to see me soon . I'm not really sure what to do now
Well, it sounds like you’ve done all you can do for now. I guess you’ll just have to wait and see what happens. :( Perhaps there was some phone malfunction (lost, stolen, broken, etc.) and he is unable to reach you. Or, maybe he just changed his mind for some reason, which seems unlikely to me… Maybe, if you’re friends on FB, you can see if he’s mentioned having phone issues. If not, you could message him (NOT NOW - wait a a few more days) and say something along the lines of, “Hey, I haven’t heard from you in a while! Just wanted to see how you are and if you still want to meet up some time. Either way, I hope you doing great! :)”. If that doesn’t yield a reply, I’d give up and move on, especially if he is active on FB (i.e. posting statuses, etc.). I hope that helps! Good luck — I really hope everything works out!
So, I think I know I'm just being stupid, but I'll ask anyway! A couple of weeks ago I met a guy through some friends and we hit it off really well and ended up kissing. We've been texting a lot since (like every day) and he's so nice!! he asked me out this weekend but I'm busy. we sortof alternate who texts first...but we havn't spoken in 3ish days, I know it's not that long, but I worry that he'll lose interest. What do I do? I'm trying not to look desperate and ruin my chances xx
You should free up next weekend and text him to tell him you’re ready to claim that raincheck. :) He may think YOU have lost interest because you said no to the date and haven’t been texting him. He probably pulled back to see what you’d do, and the conversation ceased so he might have taken that as rejection. Honestly, I think texting rules are stupid and I don’t tend to follow them and I’ve seen no repercussions thus far. Just because you were the last person to text yesterday night doesn’t mean you can’t be the first person to text the next day. While it’s bad to seem desperate, you should want to seem interested rather than too busy for him. I’m sure you’ll find a good middle ground. Just don’t forget that guys want to feel wanted just the same as you. Good luck and I hope this helps! <3